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Life is difficult to think about. It can be confusing, unpredictable, and at times even cruel. Yet I believe that however difficult life becomes, we should not stop thinking about it.

A lot of life happens automatically. Nature works, we survive, we grow, and we inherit ideas, habits, manners and boundaries from the people and world around us. Much of this is necessary, and often it is given to us with the best intelligence people have. But eventually, we have to realise that within all of this vast existence, there is also one particular life that is ours. And where we have a choice, I believe we have a responsibility to make that move ourselves.

For me, choosing a partner is one of those choices. Marriage is not simply a social ritual because other people do it. It is a way of living—a decision to experience an intimate part of being human with another person. I cannot control who life brings me, or whether someone will choose me. But I can choose to reach out sincerely, and take responsibility for the part of this journey that is actually mine.

What matters to me, then, is not only the social banner around a person: what they studied, what they earn, how they look, or what society says they represent. Those things can matter for compatibility and for building a life together, but beneath them is a person. Who are you when nobody is watching? What happens inside you when you are alone, when you make a choice for yourself, when you struggle, imagine, wonder, become curious, fail, recover, or simply exist?

I would like to know that person.

I don't see a relationship primarily as a transaction of what one person gets from another. I think a beautiful question is not only, “What do I get?” but, “What can I become capable of giving?” Can I become part of the mechanism that makes another person's life a little easier, safer, freer, more alive? Can home become the kind of place where the person I love can breathe without having to carry every social banner with them—a place that can be a café, a studio, a rest room, a spiritual centre, or simply somewhere they can be themselves?

For me, this is where seva, devotion and intimacy meet. I don't mean perfection. Two people do not need to be equally intelligent, equally capable, or equally evolved. They simply need to choose to be there for each other, rather than leaving the whole decision to luck, society, parents, or circumstance.

My understanding of spirituality is also less about labels and more about openness. It is an ongoing happening: an openness to existence, to living beings, to questioning what I think I know, recognising my mistakes, and remaining willing to understand. A person cannot be reduced to a label any more than life can be reduced to a formula.

I have made mistakes too, especially when I was younger, and some came from influences I once thought were normal or important. I don't romanticise them, but I value what came after: learning, reflection, and becoming a

About Life Partner Preferences:

I imagine marriage as a conscious choice to build a life with someone—not just to fit into one. Someone whose individuality I cherish, whose inner world I want to discover, and who wishes to discover mine. Genuine over genius, always.

I hope we grow into each other’s best friends, partners in parenthood, and lifelong students of life. A relationship with room for thoughtful conversations, constant banter, teasing, pranks, deep talks, clingy cuddles, and the kind of romance that makes two otherwise sensible adults hopeless around each other.

I value faithfulness, emotional maturity, curiosity, and the quiet trust that makes a grihastha thrive. Not perfection, but sincerity; not a performance of love, but the willingness to practise it, learn it, and keep choosing each other.

And our home? A little café, a creative studio, a resting place, a spiritual centre, a sanctuary for discovery—and occasionally, a disco. A place where we can think, laugh, wander, raise a family, welcome life’s mysteries, and simply be ourselves without carrying the burden of proving anything.

I don't expect us to have everything figured out. I'd rather we bring our questions, our quirks, our growing selves, and build something meaningful with them. A shared life that makes room for both togetherness and individuality, and where love is not just something we feel, but something we learn to live.